Happiness: Ask yourself, "If I lose everything I own right now, my job, my place of residence, my material possessions, my family, friends and loved ones...will I still be happy?" If you had to stop and ponder this question or you even answered no, then the truest happiness is not within your life. I too was guilty of these thoughts and actions at one time. I had to encounter a situation that I could not control in order to learn what the truest happiness is in life.
Naturally as you go through life, you 'think' that happiness consists of external factors such as money, material things, the people in your life, the type of car you drive or clothes you wear. Yet, happiness is not stemmed from any of these things but merely added to by these things. These external factors only add to the quality of your life based on self awareness and who you already know you are.
Therefore, if you truly look within yourself in your life at this very moment in time, can you truly say that you are happy with everything about yourself and your life? If you answered no or had to second guess the question then again, you are still not at your truest state of happiness.
The truest state of happiness is based on self awareness, self esteem, and self love. These three very important things determine the depth and quality of happiness you obtain for yourself in your life. As you grow older, you gain wisdom and knowledge based on your life experiences. Yet, 'how' much wisdom you gain is based merely on how you choose to change your perception based on what 'appears' to be the negative instances of your lives.
Learning to change your perspective on those negative instances helps you see the positive side of a negative situation. For example, some people sit and scream, "Why the fuck is this shit happening to me, what the hell did I do to deserve this?" Instead, the situation can be looked at as life teaching us something valuable that our family, friends or loved ones cannot. Everything in life is based on trial and error, and cause and effect. Right?
Life can be looked at as one giant magnet. If a battery needs a positive and negative flow to work, and the universe works on positive and negative energy, then humans being made up of the same eclectic energy can determine the outcomes of the negative situations in your lives. If your house catches on fire, you lose your job, and your loving and faithful wife or husband (boy friend or girl friend) walks out on you all at the same time, you are probably going to think that life has some personal vendetta against you.
However, karmic retribution and personal perspectives play a great role in how you will come out of all of this happening at one time. Truly, if someone loves you they won't walk out on you no matter what affects your life. So, a loved one or even family abandoning you in your time of need only proves that the person never belonged in your life or was only there for a specified season.
Changing how you look at your house catching on fire and you losing your job can either be life preparing you for greater advancement or repaying you from some action you committed earlier in your life. How you choose to look at this situation determines how you come out of it, and how long it takes to regain your personal happiness.
I have seen some homeless people that others call bums and they were the happiest looking people I have ever seen in the world. Blessed with an ability to find internal happiness despite the fact that they are homeless, have no place to stay or anything to eat daily, these people have learned to be happy with the little things they do have and most importantly some of them have learned to be happy no matter what life looks like on the outside.
On a more personal level of experiences on learning to be happy no matter what happens in life, I am a survivor of Hurricane Katrina, and losing everything I ever obtained to a situation beyond my control as a resident in a city and state that is not even my native land surely taught me that happiness does not come in the form of material things, my career or cars or even the people who I thought were my family and friends.
When you lose everything and everyone in your life, and you have no choice but to stand and take control of your personal happiness despite what your life may appear to be to others, then and only then through wisdom and personal growth have you obtained the truest sense of happiness from your within you based on self awareness, self esteem and self love.
Are you ready to stand up and take control of your personal happiness?
-Lyfe Lessynz
There comes a time where enough is enough right? So, when we engage in social relationships despite the intimacy or depth of the connection we share with different people on different levels, we are in control of the pain people inflict on our lives.
Due to hurt and anger based on the infractions the people we share our lives with inflict, we want to point fingers and play the blame game. However, WE are in control of the pain we allow others to inflict in our lives.
True enough, the violating party 'must' take responsibility for their own actions, but we have the power to stop them from hurting us.
Abuse is abuse no matter how severe or minor it may appear, and it's 'not' okay on any level. But the key is becoming aware that you are in control of what people do in your life that hurts.
You want to give the people/person you love and care about he benefit of the doubt in hopes that they would change. However, when we learn who a person is based on how they respond or react toward us, we have to exercise compassion toward ourselves enough to stop the people/person from causing that mental, physical or emotional anguish.
Are you going to stand up today and stop the pain that is being inflicted in your life or are you going to continue making excuses for why it is okay for people to continue hurting you?
You are in control, take a stand in your life now and love yourself more then any person you have ever loved in your life.
- Lyfe Lessynz
As we walk through life, we are learning each day who we are and who we want to become. Many people have strong family support systems or alternate external support systems that aid them through these multiple transitions in their lives.
But what about the people who don't have family ties or external support systems to aid them in their constantly transitioning walk of life? I am one of those people. However, I did not and not allow the circumstances and situations of my life to conform me or redefine who I am created to be.
I am about to branch out on a touchy area of life right quick, so please bear with me on this one. If life is about personal growth, learning to love and embrace yourself for who you truly are, and constantly redefining yourself to become the best that you can be, and to elevate above and beyond your current life condition, then why do we indulge in religion?
Yes...it's the big question that gets every one's underwear in a bunch. I touch on this because LIFE is about spirituality not religion. I understand clearly that some people need a religious foundation to determine who they are, where they plan on going on their life journey, and most importantly improving their spiritual strength and quality of life.
On the other hand, religion comes with constant restraints of what you can and cannot do, how you are or should think of yourself and life, and why you should or should not be who you truly want and need to be for yourself. Don't get me wrong, I DO believe in a higher power and creator of all things. I do have moral standards and values that I have and do practice in my daily life. Yet, I don't feel the need to follow the leader on religious practices and beliefs.
If I am to develop into who I was created to be or need to be, I cannot find that inner being with religious, theoretical and methodological views constantly flowing in and out of me on a daily basis, I have lived a severely diversified life, and still do in may instances. However, what my life has brought me through does not define who I am...I do.
SO, if in this life we are to be who we truly are created to be then we need to tap into the universe and meditate through spiritual alignment, chakra healing and healthy eating finalized with daily exercise. Life is too short to allow others to conform our thought processes into what they want it to be, and to persuade us into being something other then what makes us happy. Because the reality is, our lives are about us....not anyone else.
- Think about it, and share your views.
